Breaking the Vicious Spell of Sexual Addiction

One might have fantasized about the gorgeous women they ever laid their eyes on but if someone went ahead to conquer each and every such woman in an endless but a methodical quest then such an individual might be considered to be prone to sexual addiction. Though, it may not sound like a life threatening situation but the social and the psychological implications of this condition will make you think otherwise.

Sex addiction has a major difference than other types of addictions like alcohol or drug addiction as it involves the act of sex which is a normal activity that is performed regularly unlike consuming alcohol or drugs. However, sexual addiction is basically all about engaging in a relentless pursuit of sexual pleasure despite the knowledge of its consequence to oneself and others. It is an addiction that can permanently damage a person but just like all other addictions it too can be cured with the right treatment.

An essential key to the right treatment of sex addiction lies in understanding the key reasons behind the addiction. There can be various causes like early exposure to inappropriate sexual activity or materials or physical, sexual and emotional abuse especially during childhood or the adolescence period. Growing up in rigid and disengaged families also can contribute to the development of sexual addiction in an individual as such families tend to ignore, restrict or make the child feel inadequate and as a failure. Thus in such circumstances the child tries to escape from his family issues and resorts to sexual fantasies like masturbation or engaging in covert sex early in life to escape from the tensions.

Addiction recovery in such cases starts with helping one to stop that behavior first. All this can be done by attending these recovery oriented support meetings or to maintain a support system via a therapist or a support group with the back up of a sponsor. Also some professional doctors can offer counseling and therapy in cases of sex addiction but the role of family and friends in encouraging and supporting the individual is instrumental in faster treatment. Also, the infamous 12 step sex program for treating addictions states sexual addiction as the most difficult to master is it would involve an extremely dedicated approach to treat the addiction. However, one of the most effective ways to conquer sexual addiction is by counseling strategies like individual counseling, group counseling, counseling of the addict’s partner and couple counseling. The motive of these counseling sessions is to help not only the addict but also the partner or the spouse who faces trauma due to the addiction.

Prior to treatment a person caught in sexual addiction might perform sexual acts to feel safe, comfortable and accepted but it is one condition that separates an individual from everything in life that a person holds dear. And the only way one can break out from a situation that will destroy one’s social structure is by going through addiction recovery. While alcohol and drugs have to be bought, sex is a normal experience and this recovering from an addiction based on a routine act is difficult without help.

35 Health Tips For First Time Dads

Four years ago the National Fatherhood Initiative surveyed more than 700 U.S. dads about their perspectives on fathering.

A scant 54 percent of the dads said they had felt adequately prepared for the role.

This one’s for you first time dads feeling less confident: 35 health tips for the first year of fatherhood. Brother, can you spare some butt paste?

Debrief the delivery. “We think we’re doing a good job in the labor-and-delivery room of explaining things, but we deliver hundreds of babies,” says Kaiser Permanente Colorado OB/Gyn Kim Warner, MD. “Our explanations may not sink in the first time.” Follow up on any and all lingering questions about the birth process.

Carry car seats close to your body. When lugging junior around in his baby seat, hold the seat as close to your torso as possible. This will engage your back muscles in addition to your arms, and you won’t tire as quickly.

Limit your child’s exposure to the sun. REALLY limit exposure until the infant is at least 6 months old. After 6 months, limit direct exposure to 20 minutes-and not without a hat, pants, long-sleeved shirt and sunscreen (SPF 15 or higher). Sunburn is not the only concern. Dehydration and heat exhaustion also are possible.

Don’t overthink Rover’s affection. “I’ve never really heard of a child getting sick from a dog licking them on the face,” says Kaiser Permanente Colorado pediatrician, Scott Zimbelman, MD. “It won’t cause any harm if it happens once in a while.” Also: that whole thing about Sudden Infant Death Syndrome as a result of cats sleeping with babies? Old wives tale.

Fan the baby’s room. A 2008 Kaiser Permanente research study found infants sleeping in bedrooms with fans ventilating the air had a 72 percent lower risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome compared to infants sleeping in bedrooms without fans.

Go to the six-week OB/Gyn appointment. “There’s so much going on at that point, and it’s good validation that you’re doing a good job,” Dr. Warner says. “The can-we-have-sex-yet conversation is particularly valuable. Having both partners there makes for a better discussion.”

Beat barrier No. 1 to losing the sympathy weight: Ignoring the calorie count.

Hold the baby. The research on parent-baby bonding historically has focused on the mother-baby bond. The attachment between father and baby also takes nurturing. Be present. Change diapers. Talk to your child. “It’s good for the child, and it builds your confidence and competence as a parent,” says Joe Barfoot, licensed clinical social worker with Kaiser Permanente Colorado. “The only thing dads can’t do is breastfeed.”

Know the signs of post-partum depression. Mood swings, tears, feeling overwhelmed-expect she’ll experience all of it after welcoming your newborn into the world. This is the so-called (and common) baby blues. If the emotional bouts last beyond two weeks, and those feelings turn toward deep sadness, and trouble bonding with the baby, it could be post-partum depression.

Resist putting dropped pacifiers and utensils in your mouth. Doing so can increase your baby’s risk of infections and cavities. Clean dropped pacifiers and utensils with soap and water.

Lift with your legs. When moving the wife’s 200-pound heirloom dresser, you know to keep your back straight and bend your knees (rather than your back) to lift. Same rule applies when lifting and putting down your child. “Repetitive bending can lead to injury, muscle strain, or a disk herniation,” says Gregory Mills, PT, Kaiser Permanente Colorado’s clinical service director for rehabilitation services.

Get your child vaccinated. Studies from Kaiser Permanente’s Institute for Health Research have found clear links between illnesses (including whooping cough and chicken pox) and children whose parents refuse vaccinations. “Every one of these immunizations that we want to give your child I had no qualms about giving my kids,” Dr. Zimbelman says.

Use birth control for at least nine months. If you and your partner want more children, don’t rush right back into pregnancy. Her body isn’t ready. She needs time to rebuild vitamin and mineral stores, and resume a normal menstrual cycle. If she’s breastfeeding, it’s best that she continue as long as works for her and the baby. Her uterus also needs time to regain strength.

Beat barrier No. 2 to losing the sympathy weight: Taking seconds (and thirds).

Note: your child may have reactions from vaccinations. The four main side effects your child may experience: low-grade temperature (100 to 101 degrees), pain at the site of injection, tender red skin around the vaccination spot, and general fussiness.

Step into the car when installing car seats. Placing a baby seat in the car can be surprisingly awkward. You duck, twist, lift and lunge-all in one motion. That takes a toll on your back, neck and shoulders. Minimize strain by stepping one leg into the car and positioning the seat using a forward motion-rather than twisting from the side.

Ask stay-at-home moms, ‘How was your day?’ You’re back at work. If she’s not, that probably means her 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. arrangement has fundamentally changed. Yours hasn’t. Showing interest in how it’s going, at the very least, acknowledges the shift.

Avoid sling-style baby carriers. Look for carriers with dual strap systems instead of those that rest on one shoulder. Distributing the baby’s weight to both sides of your body will decrease the chance of a neck injury.

Keep a house calendar. “If you’re disorganized, you’ll be more frustrated, more stressed out,” Barfoot says. “When you’re more frustrated and stressed, it’s more likely to show up in your relationships. The more organized you are, the lower your stress level.”

Babyproof your living space a.s.a.p. This includes covering outlets, gating stairs, moving cleaning chemicals to higher shelves-addressing all possible hazards within reach (and mouth) of a curious toddler. Why a.s.a.p.? Between sleep deprivation and adjusting to new routines, the seven(ish) months between birth and crawling pass quickly.

Beat barrier No. 3 to losing the sympathy weight: Restaurant food.

Go easy on antibacterial soaps. These soaps are much harsher than their non-antibacterial brethren, and they tend to pull moisture from the skin. Baby soaps are much milder. And, the evidence suggests friction is what removes most bacteria when washing hands.

Enjoy the low dirt factor. Sponge bathe newborns until their umbilical cords fall off. After that, infants need only two or three baths per week. Enjoy the low frequency while it lasts. Because it won’t last.

Say, ‘I’m here. I want to be involved.’ “A lot of new dads feel like the mom knows everything, and they don’t have a place, so they back off,” Dr. Warner says. “What that feels like to the woman is the dad doesn’t want to be involved.” Note: your involvement may include doing laundry, washing dishes, or taking the 2 a.m. diaper shift.

Don’t make your own list. Related to Tip 24, when offering help, prioritize what she says she needs, not what you think she needs.

Make time for yourself. Same goes for your partner. (Not yet for the baby.)

Strengthen your core. Whether by way of pilates, yoga, or plain-old sit-ups and pushups, there’s no better preparation for carrying your child than improving your core stability.

Beat barrier No. 4 to losing the sympathy weight: Going easy on exercise.

Help moderate her drive to exercise. It’s good for your partner to start walking as soon as possible after giving birth, but play it smart. “If it hurts, don’t do it,” Dr. Warner says. “If it causes bleeding, don’t do it.” Usually it’s six weeks before she can resume full exercise. Gradually increase the walking distance, and no swimming for at least that first six weeks.

Reprioritize date night. Carve out at least one night per month to nurture the relationship with your partner. Start making time for each other while still staying at home. Look toward date night out once you have identified a babysitter you are both comfortable with.

Read up on the baby’s first year. Note the broad definitions of “normal” child development. “You’re preventing parenting anxiety by knowing some things to expect,” Barfoot says.

Communicate with the grandparents. If you’re thinking where are they? They may be thinking Where’s my invitation? If you’re thinking Can we get some space? They may be thinking I’m getting older… I need to spend time with my grandchild? “It’s all about communication,” Barfoot says.

Accept that babies sometimes cry for no reason. New babies may cry as many as 3 hours per day. Sometimes they’re too hot. Sometimes too cold. Maybe hungry or lying in a messy diaper. And sometimes it’s just unexplainable. Good news is it’s not because you’re doing a bad job.

Target seven hours of sleep per day. The rule of thumb is adults need between seven and nine hours of sleep a day. You’ll probably come up short in the first few months of your child’s life. But long term, getting too little sleep will decrease your alertness, increase your risks of auto accidents and lead you to eat poorly. Consider this as justification for midday naps. This goes for mom, too.

Beat barrier No. 5 to losing the sympathy weight: No support system.

Top Health Tips For Women Made In 2013

A shocking study from this year has also revealed that the cost of birth control in Florida varied considerably. In less wealthy areas, it was found that the cost of prescription contraceptives were more expensive compared to the same product in wealthier zip code areas. The research has raised concern for those in need of the drugs but are struggling financially.

In March of this year, the United Nations shared research that states that by 2015, approximately 233 million women will still be unable to access modern forms of contraception. With contraception being such an essential tool in preventing unwanted pregnancies, it allows women to decide on their desired family size. Contraception is also key in reducing the number of women dying in both pregnancy and childbirth especially as it’s a very cost effective method of intervention.

An American study has also found that women could in fact slash their chances of having a heart attack by up to 32% by simply eating 3 servings of either strawberries or blueberries each week. It’s thought that this could be due to the effect of the flavonoids contained within the fruits which prevents a build-up of plaque in the arteries, which is great news for wine drinkers as its thought the same result is achieved.

2013 has also revealed the results of a lengthy study carried out during 1996-2008 that was trying to establish whether or not there is a link between depression in women and the consumption of inflammation-spurring foods. The study excluded any women already suffering from the condition. The results showed that women who regularly ate foods such as pasta and red meat, were in fact more prone to developing depression.

Across the pond, comprehensive research has been done by the Environmental Protection Agency to assess the current levels of mercury in women’s blood. As women are now more aware of the health risks associated with consuming high levels of mercury, its thought that women are now thinking more carefully about the types of fish they eat. Mercury has been linked to both kidney and neurological problems.

At the latest annual meeting for the European Society of Human Reproduction and Embryology, new information was announced claiming a possible link between a lack of sleep and a woman’s ability to conceive. It suggests that women who work irregular shifts could be put at a higher risk of not conceiving whilst those who work during the night increase their chances of mis-carrying. The reason behind this thinking is that interrupted sleep could be affecting their internal clock, so in order to maximise fertility, a woman should aim to get between 7-8 hours’ sleep each night.

There’s been some good news though for cancer survivors, as a recent study has shown that two-thirds of women who have survived cancer before the age of 21 were able to successfully go on to have a child. The statistics were taken after 3,500 18-39 year old sexually-active women were looked at, which revealed these promising results.

This year, preliminary findings into a baby’s brain development has suggested that getting the normal 20 minutes of moderate exercise 3 times a week could help. Researchers are still to make definitive findings but it’s thought that regular exercise helps to boost a baby’s all round development.

New findings by researchers at Duke’s University has suggested that women who are diagnosed with breast cancer in its early stages could have a better chance of survival if they opt for a lumpectomy and radiation instead of a mastectomy. In recent times many women have been opting for mastectomies for psychological reasons instead of medical, however, more research still needs to be done.

The US Preventative Services Task force changed its guidelines several years ago surrounding the age at which women should receive routine mammograms. Despite the organisation deciding this, women between the ages of 40-49 are still going for the test with numbers slightly increasing. The results are a good indication that women are taking their health seriously.

This year the American College of Allergy, Asthma and Immunology revealed the results of its study into post-pubescent women’s increased chances of developing food allergies, asthma and rhinitis. They believe women are more likely than men to develop certain conditions as a result of both genetics and sex hormones.

The final big health story for women this year involves a bra, or rather why you shouldn’t wear one. Although almost all women wear a one on a daily, research suggests they may not be beneficial. By not wearing a bra, a woman doesn’t develop her body’s natural tissue which supports the breasts. So not wearing a bra is not only more comfortable, but also better for you too!